Dyskolos

Your point isn’t wrong, it just doesn’t invalidate OPs point. There are many exceptions,but the majority reason for rape surely is a lack of sex. For some,prostitutes probably aren’t sufficient. Or they’re too weak and need to dominate. Or their lust outweighs their wallet in quantity. And some simply can’t afford them at all.

I would argue that if everyone would have access to sex whenever needed, rape would be veeeery noticeably down. It won’t eradicate it sadly,but help a lot.

In the end, we’re just a sexual species.

Their point was that the kid’s brain isn’t well enough adjusted to understand the ramifications of a permanent non-contact-decision. While part 1 isn’t wrong, part 2 is so horribly off, even to the point of someone seemingly fearing their toy might be leaving. Not saying pedo, but either that, silly conclusion or a total lack of empathy.

And nah, i rarely block nor ignore. Most people fight for their point to the death, even if they already know it’s bonkers. Even “science”-people who totally shouldn’t, as it’s never a personal fight in science. And trying to indicate some kind of authority on the topic is fine too. I did it myself. Those who really have, know the difference of stating and posing it.

We sure did. But please, do continue your “studies”, you never know when it might come in handy.

Facts? So heavily abused children should stay with their abusers forever because their "brain is not well-enough to make any lifelong decisions hence they are not… "? This is the most absurd thing I’ve heard in a while. Not saying their brain isn’t perfectly well adjusted. No shit sherlock, that’s old news. Just the conclusion is… Very questionable. The ramifications of a no-contact-decision is the faint possibility of starting a therapy and get slightly better.

Anyone abused in whatever way, no matter how mature their brain is, should leave the abusive environment (at the very least. And get help at the acceptable best) . Isn’t that like the most basic survival-tactic? Avoid any kind of harm at all costs however possible.

Also with due respect, your opinion is wrong. I work with badly abused people, and those that CAN escape from toxicity at the earliest have it “best”. Some could never escape. There are 12yr old who have a forced maturity that you often don’t even find in 40+ olds. Which is not really a good thing.

Please, i don’t wanna sound condescending or so, but widen your horizon in that regard please.

You don’t owe them anything just because you share blood. That being said.

Without knowing the background: if it was not him you’re mad at, he might just want to have contact with his offspring. Nothing inherently bad. So why not? Can’t hurt. It’s not yes or no forever. Test what he REALLY wants and decide then? At least you can never blame yourself in the future for not trying, if you’re inclined to doing these things.

But if there is any toxicity at all, fuck it. Ground rule #1 in life: cut toxic people out. Period. Be it blood or stranger. Doesn’t matter. But you already did this long ago, so kudos for that.

Never watched a stream, never really understood the motivation. But i also don’t consume social media (besides lemmy) or such and am generally anti-social, so that might be that. I would be infuriated if those people wouldn’t do what I would do. Also the chat is… Annoying.