• RBWellsV23@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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    21 days ago

    There are plenty of things I can’t do anymore, but I was shocked at how hot it was to do some of the things I thought I wouldn’t like in real life.

    I think masochism is the line where it’s the most different - I like some pain IRL but it can quickly cross to where it’s unsexy or only hot because I am doing it for the sadist, like as a submissive thing it’s satisfying but the literal pain is just painful beyond what is gonna make the high or the arousal. In fantasy, where obviously I’m not hurting, that line is farther away, though it still exists.

    You do need good communication and an enthusiastic partner to do any sort of threesome, I think it’s fun (MFM), was better in real life than I’d imagined it would be.

    CNC I have written about here, that is different in real life but not worse. I think because in your mind the other person is undefined, right? More like stuff being done to you. But in real life it’s a real person with their own desires, they are driving, you are on their ride.

  • dugmeup@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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    28 days ago

    Affairs. Great in porn, but I’d imagine it would be completely destructive to my personal life. So never.

    • HeyJoe@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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      26 days ago

      It has been my fantasy forever. I’ve been married for over a decade now, and we both promised we would do this someday while we were dating. She has always had an interest in being with another woman, so it works out perfectly. It just can’t be someone we know. Finally, a month ago, for her birthday we took the first steps, and I took her to her first strip club, and we both had a lot of fun. It was super fun seeing her not know what to do, be super shy, embarrassed, but clearly turned on and loving it! We talked about it some more the next day and think we’re ready to see if we can make this happen someday. Honestly, my biggest fear at this point has nothing to do with myself or her falling for someone else, but how I have no idea how I expect to last long enough for it to be worth it!

    • Twitches@lemm.eeEnglish
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      27 days ago

      Threesome with 2 people I like, it would mess with my relationship and my head if I was in love with one of them