TLDR?

There has been some drama here on midwest.social, and those troubled by it have made a sister community at !lotrmemes@lemmy.dbzer0.com. I’m looking for your input on how to move forward.

Where have you been?

This started unfolding at the end of 2024, unfortunately along with a pretty scary decline in my partner’s health, which has resulted in Lemmy taking a backseat in my life. This is ongoing, and highlights the immediate issue of !lotrmemes@midwest.social being largely unmoderated, which I’ll address below.

What exactly happened?

It feels irresponsible for me to give my own take on something that happened in my absence, but here’s a timeline as I understand it:

  • Luigi shoots a CEO.
  • User A comments something to the effect of “someone please kill this other person” on a midwest.social community.
  • User B reports the comment.
  • Admin at midwest.social bans User B for being a “Libbety lib lib.”
  • Users start moving away from midwest.social.
  • A new LOTR Memes community is started on lemmy.dbzer0.com.

Please have a look at https://lemmy.cafe/post/10511187 and form your own opinion.

What happens next?

I have seen calls to lock this community and sticky a post redirecting people to the new community, in an effort to consolidate users in one place. On the other hand, there are people still using and enjoying this community. I don’t want to abruptly take that away. One of Lemmy’s major benefits is user choice, including choice of instance, and if people are fine with staying here, who am I to force them out?

I would like to hear from the users here. This is your community. If you want to keep it separate, we will. If you want to fold in with the new one, we will. If we do keep this one open, we immediately need more mods, so please PM me if you’re interested in helping out. My partner has another hospital stay for a pretty major surgery at the end of this week and I will likely be dropping off the earth for awhile after that.

Thank you for your patience and understanding.

Zoidsberg

EDIT

The majority seems to want to keep things running, so that’s what we’ll do. I won’t be stepping down as mod but I will be absent for awhile. I have every confidence that imaqtpie@midwest.social will keep things under control, and that this community can happily coexist with our friends on dbzer0. Personally, I will be subscribing to both.

The world is full enough of hurts and mischances without wars to multiply them.

  • threelonmusketeers@sh.itjust.works
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    8 days ago

    Thanks for this post! Just wanted to chime in that I would support moving to dbzer0.

    Best wishes on your partner’s upcoming surgery. Hope things go well.

  • seahorse [Ohio]@midwest.social
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    9 days ago

    Well, not gonna beat around the bush, was having a shitty day that day for one thing and I did find the report for someone saying “do elon next!” annoying, and then found out the reporter is a known mass reporter for shit like that, so I at the time decided to just “nip it in the bud” if you will. I didn’t think at the time it was a big deal but I guess it was. After a bit of time passed I decided to reverse the ban. I keep forgetting reports go to both instances’ admins, not just me, so reporting something that is against other instances’ rules is fair.

    This probably won’t change anyone’s mind but that is my side of the story.

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        9 days ago

        Oh yeah, forgot about that. Looking at it now that looks pretty bad. Was just trying to emphasize I’m not removing it but it definitely looks pretty power trippy and I apologize.

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              7 days ago

              Nah, honestly, I agree. No sarcasm or anything. I’ve seen a lot of you recently, going around and calling out mods and admins for their bad takes. I think this is a great service to the rest of us who don’t have the time and inclination to do so.

              It is not your responsibility to do so, but so long as you are doing it, I appreciate it. I’m sure many others do as well. Community leaders need to be held to a high standard and in order for that to happen someone has to check them about it. We aren’t well organized here and we don’t have a method for that beyond people just like you crawling the mod logs and making noise where it’s warranted.

              Thank you.

    • archomrade [he/him]@midwest.social
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      7 days ago

      For whatever it’s worth, I’m entertained by these bans and have no problem with your moderation style.

      Users from the larger instances can be melodramatic - it’s nice to see them get burned for it on occasion.

  • CreateProblems@corndog.social
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    9 days ago

    Way less drama and way more transparency than the current state of 196 on the blahaj.zone instance.

    Zoidsberg you’re still a good mod in my books and I’m not leaving the community over this. I’ll sub to the new community too but it sounds like the comments on this thread are in agreement to stay here.

    Thanks for the status update and best of luck with your partner’s health.

    I don’t have the bandwidth to pick up mod work myself but hopefully you can find another volunteer who can help share the load on days where Lemmy is taking a backseat for you. All my respect to anyone willing to moderate, we couldn’t do this without y’all.

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      9 days ago

      Thanks, Blaze. Its not ideal but life never is. She’s tough, I’m confident she’ll be okay.

  • imaqtpie@sh.itjust.works
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    9 days ago

    Just let the community keep running and see what happens. I’ll help moderate it.

    It’d be a shame to lose one of the few major communities on Lemmy not hosted by one of the major servers, imho. If midwest.social admins keep making unpopular decisions, then this community will probably wither and the db0 one will take over. But I feel like that ban was pretty funny even though I disagree with it, so I’m willing to give the benefit of the doubt.

    The alternative could also occur, if some shit goes down on db0 and the new community actually implodes. I have no reason to expect that to happen, but you never know. Best to let things play out, I’m subscribed to both communities anyhow and crossposting is also something that is quite simple on Lemmy.

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    8 days ago

    Doesn’t seem as that big of a problem, that it would warrant migrating. Intentionally killing this community seems to be overkill.

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    8 days ago

    I’m just here for the memes, some of the best memes saved in my phone are from this community.

    I see no need to shut it down over some drama, especially since it’s just that

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    9 days ago

    After reading all the comments and info, I’d like it to stay. It’s one of my favorite communities.

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    8 days ago

    What are the official policies of midwest.social and of lotrmemes regarding comments like that?

    I wouldn’t use an instance on which support for this killing was official policy, but I can respect the decision of an instance admin to permit expressions of support (and of opposition) out of a commitment to facilitating free speech, as long as lotrmemes itself is not a place where such expressions are allowed. I would rather not see any sort of divisive real-world issues discussed in this particular community.

    • imaqtpie@midwest.socialM
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      7 days ago

      It looks like I will be the main moderator of this community for the time being, and I intend to remove any comments calling for violence or murder. In many circumstances that wouldn’t have to be explicitly stated, but here we are.

      I will try to keep the comments free of divisive political topics, but the memes themselves will be allowed to reference contemporary events, so long as they are funny.

      I have faith that neither the admin nor the users will cause any undue problems. My hope is that this community will be a light to us all in dark places, even when all other lights go out.