• BreakDecks@lemmy.ml
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    2 years ago

    A dating-style app for platonic relationships. Just a place to define yourself on a wide variety of criteria and meet up with like-minded people IRL just for fun.

    I know it’s been tried before, and the weakness is always horny people who misuse the app, but I would love to easily coordinate a meet up with some randos for a coffee or a round of beers every once in a while without it being some kind of community-specific meetup.

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      2 years ago

      I’ve considered in the past the design of an open-source (possibly federated?) dating app and there are very complicated disincentives in a system that is not algorithimically mediated.

      I believe the format of the dating app, let alone a dating app for platonic relationships, shouldn’t be proposed again unless you want to make money out of it.

      The idea of a tunnel 1 to 1 across space to engage with another, isolated individual is not something that should be pursued further. This problem should be addressed by rebuilding social environments (even online, even through new forms of software if necessary) where you know you can meet like-minded people filtered by social dynamics that keep out toxic and predatory people (or horny people if you are in for a platonic thing) through swarm intelligence, social pressure and community values. We need a new grammar of online communities to build communities where flirting and getting to know people beyond a superficial level and with romantic or sexual intentions is feasible without attracting predators, groomers and other people that often target sex-positive or “dating-positive” online communities.